- Is this a certain type of orgasm?
No, it’s an all-encompassing term for any kind of orgasm related to male genitalia.
It could be ejaculatory or non-ejaculatory, or even a mix of both! That’s right, you may be able to have multiple orgasms in one session.
All that said, your genitalia isn’t your only option when it comes to achieving the big O.
Read on for tips on where to touch, how to move, why it works and more.
- It can be an ejaculatory orgasm
Orgasm and ejaculation often happen simultaneously but they’re actually two separate events that don’t necessarily have to happen at the same time.
If your pleasure mounts and you shoot — or dribble — semen from your penis, then you’ve had an ejaculatory orgasm.
Try this
Here’s a doozy from our Masturbation Guide called “The Stranger.”
To give it go: Sit on your dominant hand until it falls asleep, then use it to masturbate with. It’ll feel like someone else is doing the job.
- Or a non-ejaculatory orgasm
Again, you don’t need to expel semen to have an orgasm.
Not everyone ejaculates with orgasm, and even those that do may not ejaculate every time.
This is also referred to as a dry orgasm.
Unless you and your partner are trying to conceive — in which case you should see a doctor — dry orgasms are usually harmless and just as enjoyable as an ejaculatory orgasm.
Try this
Make some noise. We know that masturbation is often quick and quiet. There’s nothing wrong with a discreet quickie, but letting loose and making all the noise that comes naturally can be freeing.
Get into it and let out every moan and groan your body wants to — just be sure to save this one for an empty house or company that’ll enjoy the sound show.
- Or even multiple orgasms
Though not as common for someone with a penis, multiple orgasms are possible. And who doesn’t like a challenge?
Try this
The key to multiple orgasms may be in learning to extend the period of high arousal before you come.
Masturbate almost to the point of orgasm and change the stimulation by switching hands or rhythm, or breathing slower.
When the urge to come subsides, bring yourself to the edge again, and then back down again using the techniques we just described.
- Or a mix of all of the above
Chances are that if you have multiple orgasms, you’ll experience a mix of ejaculatory and non-ejaculatory orgasms.
Try this
Try sex toys to change things up and practise prolonging your level of high arousal as described above. You can find all kinds of sex toys online, each offering up different sensations.
Some common options are:
- Fleshlights
- pocket strokers
- vibrating cock rings
- But you can orgasm from other stimulation, too
Your penis doesn’t have all the power when it comes to orgasm — your body’s loaded with pleasure points that are just waiting to get you off.
Prostate
Your prostate is the way to an intense, full-body orgasm. This walnut-sized gland is located between your penis and bladder, just behind your rectum.
You can access it by inserting a finger or sex toy in your anus.
Try this: Start by slowly rubbing the outside and inside of your anal opening with your finger. Insert your finger and massage your prostate, slowly increasing your speed as your pleasure builds.
If you’d rather not use your finger, there are plenty of toys you — or a partner — can try. Shop now for anal sex toys.
Nipple
Nipples are full of nerve endings. They’re also connected to the brain’s genital sensory cortex, so almost anyone can get pleasure from his/her nipples.
Nipple orgasms are said to sneak up on you and then send pleasure shooting through your whole body.
Try this: If you’re flying solo, get comfortable and let your mind wander to whatever gets your juices flowing. Use your hands to rub your chest and nipples to find what feels good and then keep at it.
For partner play, have them use their hands, lips, and tongue to caress, flick, pinch and lick the area.
Erogenous
Your body is full of erogenous zones that go beyond the obvious ones we’ve just covered. These are sensitive spots on your body that lead to some serious arousal and possibly a full-body orgasm when touched just right.
Try this: Get comfortable and begin touching yourself starting at your scalp and working your way down, lingering on any part that feels especially amazing.
Increase your speed and pressure as your pleasure intensifies. If you can’t take yourself over the edge like that, let one hand head south for a hand job while the other keeps pleasuring the rest of your body.
- Where does the G-spot come in?
Stumped about the male G-spot? That’s because what’s often referred to as the male G-spot is actually the prostate.
We’ve already covered how to find it via your anus, but you can actually stimulate it indirectly by massaging your perineum.
Also known as the taint, the perineum is the landing strip of skin between your balls and your anus.
A finger, a tongue, or a vibrating toy over the perineum can all work magic on the prostate.
- Isn’t ejaculation the same thing as orgasm?
Most people refer to ejaculation and orgasm as one in the same, but they are actually two separate physiological events.
Orgasm includes the pelvic contractions and intense pleasure and release you feel when you come. Ejaculation is the expulsion of semen from the penis.
- What happens in the body when you orgasm?
An orgasm is just part of the sexual response cycle, which happens in stages. Every body is different, so the duration, intensity, and even order of the stages can vary from one person to another.
Excitement
The excitement phase is the kick-off to the sexual response cycle. It can be triggered by thoughts, touch, images, or other stimuli depending on what turns you on.
During this phase your heart rate and breathing speed up, your blood pressure increases, and increased blood flow to the genitals causes an erection.
Plateau
This is an intensified version of the excitement phase, during which your penis and testicles continue to increase in size.
Orgasm
This is when your pleasure peaks and releases. It can last from a few seconds to a few minutes. If you’re going to ejaculate, this is when it usually happens.
Resolution and refraction
During the resolution phase, your body begins to return to an unaroused state. Your erection gradually subsides, your muscles relax, and you feel drowsy and relaxed.
Some people go through refractory period after orgasm, during which you may not be able to get an erection or have an orgasm. Further stimulation may feel too sensitive or even painful.
- What makes a male orgasm different from a female orgasm?
Turns out there isn’t much difference. Both experience increased heart rate and blood flow to the genitals. Ejaculation is also possible for some.
Where they differ is in duration and recovery. For example, “female” orgasm can last up to around 20 seconds longer.
Individuals who have a vagina are less likely to experience a refractory period, so they may be more likely to have more orgasms if stimulated again.
- Is there anything I can do to have a more intense orgasm?
Absolutely! Here are some things you can try.
Edging
Also called orgasm control, edging involves maintaining a high level of arousal for a longer period by holding off your orgasm.
To do this, stimulate yourself until you feel like you want to come and then change the stimulation until the urge to come subsides.
Pelvic floor exercises
Pelvic floor exercises, such as Kegels, help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which may improve orgasm control.
To do this, tense the same muscles you would to stop from passing urine. Hold for three seconds, then release for three seconds, and repeat 10 times.
Do this every day, building up to holding for 10 seconds.
Breathing exercises
Learning to slow and focus on your breathing plays an important role in the practice of tantric sex, which is all about maximizing pleasure.
Zeroing in on your breathing while masturbating or having sex can intensify sensation.
Take slow deep breaths as you become aroused to help keep you in that state of high arousal longer for a more powerful orgasm.
- What can affect my ability to orgasm?
Lifestyle factors, your mental health, and other medical conditions are just some of the things that can affect your ability to orgasm.
These include:
- Premature ejaculation. Ejaculation that occurs sooner than you want is premature ejaculation. The main symptom is a regular inability to control ejaculation for more than a minute after penetration. Psychological factors, certain medications, and hormonal imbalances can cause it.
- Retrograde ejaculation. Retrograde ejaculation occurs when the muscles that help expel ejaculate from the penis fail, causing the ejaculate to end up in the bladder. The most common symptom is very little or no semen when you orgasm. It can be caused by nerve damage due to diabetes and other conditions. Certain medications and surgical procedures can also cause it.
- Anorgasmia. Also called orgasmic dysfunction, this occurs when a person has difficulty having an orgasm or has unsatisfying orgasms. Psychological, emotional, and physical factors can cause it.
- Alcohol or substance use. Drinking too much alcohol can make it difficult to orgasm. Smoking marijuana and using other drugs can also cause it.
- Depression, stress, and anxiety. It can be hard to get aroused enough to have an orgasm if you’re dealing with stress, anxiety, or depression. Fatigue, trouble concentrating, and feeling sad or overwhelmed are common symptoms.
- Should I see a doctor?
Orgasms aren’t the same for everyone, and what makes one person climax won’t necessarily work for another.
If you have concerns or feel like you’re having trouble climaxing, talk to a doctor or sexual health specialist.
They can answer any questions you may have and may be able to make some recommendations.
